SHOELACES

 Beginnings are always hard, so are new places be it school ,classes or job or a trip for that matter. We always look for comfort and familiarity but that isn't life. Life takes us to new roads and places and we must go through all. But there is something that could make any ride any beginning easier and comfortable, that is a friend. Even when we started schooling, it were the friends that made us go there everyday. Meeting them playing, chatting, laughing with them made our lives joyful and complete. If it weren't for friends many of us won't have completed schooling happily. 

Likewise being in a new environment we always feel alienated and like a fish out of water till we make that one friend who makes everything easier. Friends bring the feeling of belonging, a feeling of being wanted and necessary. Often we come in a group of people we might mistake them for friends, but sadly they might not be what we expect them to be. This point of realization hits from a small act like tying of shoelaces. 

I happened to be one of those people who thought that the people we laugh with, walk with, as a group are friends, I realised this once on a path when my shoelaces got undone and I stopped to tie them and realised no one waited for me, they all moved on busy in their chatter and laughs and I realised, I had no friends in that particular place that particular group and that was definitely a saddening thought. Its sad when we have to run to reach others, to know we aren't that necessary or wanted for them, they might just brush it off when they see us missing from the herd by saying, oh that person didn't come and that would be it. And i accepted that fact and thought may be that is fine as long as am not alone it's ok, but it's not. and i realised this through a couple of my true friends. since this experience i never expected anyone to wait for me or to feel wanted. but when i went out with these friends of mine, i stopped to tie my shoelaces and they stopped walking, and waited by my side till i was done, this small act of a couple of minutes of waiting had an immense affect on my heart. i felt that warmth of happiness engulfing my mind, and i realised, now these are THE friends , the real ones. 

They make us feel wanted, loved, needed without having to try, it's so natural wit them. everyone needs to feel wanted and vital atleast by someone be it our friends or family that makes a huge difference, because someone cares and that someone matters the most. and being that someone for others is a huge matter too, that because of us someone's day could be cheerful, because of our small act of understanding, noticing could bring immense warmth to someone whose heart has been frozen by the coldness of the world and the hatred and not caring attitude which happens  to be some kind of new "cool" among some immatures. becasue we are humans and we function as a society everyone matters and everyone should feel wanted and that is our collective responsibilty to be kind and compassionate to our fellow people, a small act of kindness a little step taken to a new friendship can bring millions of smiles and love into the world. 

among the friends the little things like waiting for one of the friends to finish their food, waiting till they tie their shoes so that they won't fall back alone, saving seat for them, asking for their opinion, all these little things add up to be a world filled with love and compassion . let these little things be the new " cool". as kindness and love never go out of style and friendship matters the world. and am truly thankful to have found my friends who lit up my world, my chingoos.

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